What place do you escape into? What habits do you hide behind? What brought on the escapist mindset? What pain? What agony? What abuse? What violation? What tragedy? what mistake? what guilt? What shame? What self-disgust? Which of these brought this mindset on you? Which of them made you create and develop self-destructive vices?
What masks and facades do you put on?
What is your ultimate distraction from your pain, fears, anxiety and insecurities?
What is it that you do to escape from your grief and heartache?
What is it that you do to get away from the reality and truth of your agony?
What fantasy do you transport yourself into, if only for a moment, to escape the reality of your situation?
What daydreaming mode do you transcend into, to avoid the truth of your condition?
How long will you continue like this? What will it take to jolt you out of it?
When will you choose to accept healing? When will you say yes to being wholesome?
Will you not fight for your life? After reading these simple, yet penetrating questions, will you drown yourself in a alcohol, street drugs, prescription drugs, sex, fantasy, anger, bitterness, anxiety and self-pity? What will you drown yourself in dear friend? Or will you make a decision to stop and rethink your escapism?
I am sure that you have discovered that none of your escapist methods and habits have really worked, at least not to the extent where they give you a clean slate to heal and start your life over again. Escapism is far from reality, far from the truth, and does not bring you the lasting peace, joy and love that you so hungrily crave and desire. It is most likely hurting you and those around you. Get rid of it.
I hope that you will decide to stop escaping and instead, make the decision to gradually change, and live a fulfilling life; one where you have come to terms with whatever it is that is tormenting you. Face that torment, deal with it and lay it down, before it wrecks further havoc in, and damage, your life. Escapism, pretending that the pain, torment, guilt, shame, grief, loneliness and emptiness do not exist, and that the accident and trauma did not really happen, will not do you any good dear friend. It will not bring you lasting relief. It is doing you more damage than good. Lay it to rest, breathe and live!
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” –Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV)
Rethink your escapism. Confront your pain, second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, week by week, month by month, and year by year, until you overcome. You can do so, and it is possible, with God’s assistance.